What I Wish I Knew About Self-Care a Decade Ago
I once believed that self-care consisted solely of spa days, face masks, and indulging in a sweet treat. That was a decade ago. I used to think that taking care of oneself was a band-aid solution, something you did only when you were exhausted, instead of something you did every day. I regret not seeing at the time that taking care of oneself is a lifestyle choice rather than a short-term diversion.
I wish I had known about self-care sooner, but in this post, I share the most important lessons I’ve learned in the last ten years. This is for those of you who have ever thought of self-care as just another task to complete.
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1. Self-Care Is More Than Just Bubble Baths & Face Masks
The biggest misconception I had about self-care was that it was solely about pampering myself. While enjoying a relaxing bath or a spa day can be nice, true self-care involves nurturing yourself in ways that promote lasting well-being.
Self-care includes setting boundaries, nourishing your body with healthy food, getting enough sleep, and addressing your mental health needs. It’s about making choices that support your long-term wellness, even when those choices aren’t the most enjoyable or glamorous.
2. Rest Isn’t Lazy — It’s Necessary
For years, I mistakenly equated rest with laziness. I believed that to be productive, I had to keep pushing myself, even when I was exhausted. I now understand that rest is not just a luxury — it is essential for mental clarity, creativity, and emotional well-being.
Burnout isn’t a sign of success; instead, it indicates that you have been neglecting your own needs. Allowing yourself permission to rest is an important act of self-care that enables you to show up as your best self.
3. Saying No Is a Form of Self-Care
I used to agree to everything, even when it left me exhausted, because I was a chronic people-pleaser. One of the most effective self-care lessons I’ve learned is how to say “no.” Saying no demonstrates intentionality rather than selfishness. It’s critical to safeguard your time, energy, and mental health. You make room for what really matters when you turn down commitments that don’t fit with your values or recharge your energy.
4. Movement Is About Joy, Not Punishment
Exercise used to seem like a punishment for consuming “bad” foods to me. I no longer move my body because I have to, but rather because it feels good. Walking, dancing, yoga, and strength training are all examples of joyful movement that should feel more like a gift than a chore. It makes all the difference to find things you enjoy doing rather than making yourself do exercises you detest.
5. Food Is Fuel, Not a Reward or Punishment
Diet culture taught me to view food as something to fear, control, or use as a reward. Now, I see food as nourishment rather than an enemy. Eating well isn’t about strict rules or feeling guilty; it’s about providing your body with what it needs to thrive. Mindful eating, intuitive choices, and balance are far more sustainable than restrictive dieting.
As you read, think about how you can turn these lessons into daily reflection. The Self-Care Journal Prompts offers thoughtful questions to help you understand your needs and nurture real emotional balance.
6. The Importance of Digital Detoxing and Mental Space
Ten years ago, I didn’t realize how much my phone and social media were impacting my well-being. Endless scrolling, constant comparisons to others, and being perpetually online drained my energy and self-esteem. Now, I prioritize digital detoxing by setting time limits on apps, taking breaks from social media, and focusing on being present in real life. Creating mental space has led to increased creativity, joy, and peace.
Conclusion: Advice to My Younger Self
If I could go back in time, I would tell my younger self this: self-care is not selfish. It’s not about quick fixes or trendy fads; it’s about creating a life that feels rewarding to live every day.
To anyone reading this: It’s never too late to start prioritizing yourself. Begin with small steps, stay consistent, and remember that self-care is an ongoing journey, not a destination. What self-care lesson have you learned over the years? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
Over the years, I’ve learned that self-care isn’t just about spa days — it’s about daily habits that nurture your mind and soul. Using a journal or planner has been a game-changer for me, helping me track my self-care routines and stay intentional. If you’re looking for a tool to do the same, check out my collection here